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Are girls egocentric / selfish?
Yes 
42%
 42%  [ 3 ]
No 
28%
 28%  [ 2 ]
Partially 
14%
 14%  [ 1 ]
Can't Say 
14%
 14%  [ 1 ]
Total Votes : 7


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vinu_scorpion
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PostPosted: Fri Jun 02, 2006 9:02 am Reply with quoteBack to top

It's a long story but I can assure you that it's worth of reading. So, just chill out & njoy!!!!

She, He... And a love story


Friend: Happy birthday!
She : Haan...tha......nk yo....u...was just getting up from the bed.

Friend : Oh! That means I am the first to wish you!
She : Naa! He has already wished me at 12 in the night.

Friend : Who???
She : Come on, who else, Nitin.

Friend : Oh, ok. So, what's the plan for today?
She : Nitin told me that he has a surprise gift for me for my Birthday. And also we are going to Flower Show today. I am excited! I have never seen the flower show that happens in LalBaug. Actually that itself is the most wonderful gift for me.

***********************************

Friend : "Did you go to Palace grounds all the way from Basavanagudi, to see Bryan Adam's show!!! Who accompanied you?"
She : Nitin

Friend : By the way, who referred your CV in SoCrates? I mean you don't know anyone there, right?
She : No, he forwarded my CV to one of his friends there.

Friend : I heard that the HR round interview went on till 8pm in the night. I think you faced difficulty in returning to your room.

She : No, he had come to pick me up. He came from his office, dropped me to my room and he returned to his room at around 11pm. He didn't have dinner also. I asked him to have at my room. Poor Nitin.

***********************************

Friend : If you are supposed to go home tomorrow itself then what about reservation?
She : I have told him, he will go to Majestic and would get it done, and he told he has some work in Majestic. That's why I am relaxed a bit
.

***********************************

Friend : How was your written test in Philips?
She : I failed yaar. The day before the test I had prepared perfectly. Nitin had come to our room. He taught me the basics of embedded programming concepts. I was very confident only because of him. But something else was in store for me.

Friend : Then, what did you do on Sunday?
She : We had gone to see "Lakshya". He doesn't see Hindi movies. But as I was upset after failing in the Philips written test, he took me for movie. I was very happy and surprised that he himself decided for a Hindi movie, and he was very happy that I enjoyed the movie. And you know; we had dinner in Pizza hut. It was his belated B'day treat!

Friend : And, what was your belated gift icon_wink.gif
She : Gift!! I had given the gift on his B'day itself. I was the first to call him at 12 in the night, he was busy throughout the day, and somehow we could meet in the evening and I gifted him with a cute time piece with a nice quote on it. He doesn't have time sense, so my time piece must always remind him of this. That day he didn't give me any treat as he had to go back to office. Yesterday I had a fight over this, you know! Poor kid.


***********************************

Friend : Hello...what about our saree shopping program in Malleshwaram?
She : Listen, I will call you later.


***********************************

Friend : You didn't call me back in the morning, so I called now.
She : Yeah, when you called I was in Koramangala, with Nitin. He was very upset in the morning. He had a fight with his brother. So, it wouldn't have been fair on my part to leave him alone. If I am with him in such situation very soon he comes back to normalcy. So I postponed the Malleshwaram program.


***********************************

Friend : Hey! What happened? You seem to be very happy today.
She : Why not? You know today is one of the most happiest days for me. Nitin got an onsite assignment in UK, for 6 months! That's why I am very happy. All of his hard work paid today. He had been waiting for this opportunity since long. He'll be leaving next month.

Friend : You will miss him.
She : Badly. I am so much dependent on him. I must thank Sanju, through him only I got to know Nitin. Without Nitin it would have been very difficult for me to stay in this alien city with no friends, relatives and on top of all, no job. He has been so caring friend all through my tough times in this city, he is so mature, so understanding, so trustworthy...a true friend.

Friend : He loves you yaar.
She : I know.

Friend : And you? Don't you love him?
She : I don't want to.

Friend : Don't tell me. You also feel for him.
She : I know yaar. He has everything that I expect in my dream-life-partner. I know I can never get a true life partner like him. But I don't want to commit.

Friend : What is stopping you? I really don't understand. When Miya-beevi are razi kya karega kazi?
She : Please...don't say like that. I never told him that I love him or something like that.

Friend : Is he a fool not to understand your feelings which are so clear from outside only? Poor fellow, don't leave him alone.
She : I have told him everything about my family. He knows how orthodox my parents are. They can never expect me marrying a guy from a different caste. They trust me. Come what may, I will not hurt my parent's feelings. I cannot imagine also. Now they are happily searching a guy for me in my native place.

Friend : Hmm, I don't understand at all.


***********************************

She : This Saturday I have to go home, a guy is coming to see me.
Friend : Oh! Is it? Good news yaar. Your first interview! Wish you all the best.

Friend : Any guesses, who is he?
She : Please yaar. I am least bothered and least interested. For the sake of my parents' happiness I have agreed for this.


***********************************

Friend : What about the interview, I was expecting your call actually?
She : Nothing so special. I didn't like the guy's attitude. I told my parents clearly. My parents are very understanding and so they too told me that they won't go ahead with this matter.

Friend : But still you should have analyzed properly.
She : I shared my views with Nitin. He had called me the next day. He didn't suggest me anything. He didn't tell me to say "yes" or "no", he didn't preach what is right or what is wrong. But after talking to him I was satisfied that whatever decision I took was right.


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Friend : Yesterday your mobile was engaged for more than half an hour. I kept trying, but I slept after 11pm.
She : Yeah, I was talking to Nitin. He is very much worried about my marriage. He is concerned whether I would get a guy of my choice or not, whether I would be happy with him or not. I was very sad to know this. But I am helpless. I pacified him and convinced that whatever my parents do, that will be the best for me, so no need to worry.

Friend : How Nitin will feel after you get married? Will he not be upset all the time?
She : Time will change everything. He will start living again. Was he not leading a normal life before I came into his life? It's all matter of time. Even I can't do anything other than pacifying him and myself with these philosophical statements.


***********************************

Finally " She" got engaged with a guy of her parent's choice (with her "yes" of course). She is in touch with both Nitin and the new "him" regularly through chatting in Yahoo Messenger.

Finally " She" got happily married to "him", very soon converting Nitin into memories, but deleting the memories was slow and almost impossible for Nitin.


***********************************

Quote:
Why do girls do like this?


She needs him when she is new to the city.

She needs his help in finding out a PG or hostel for her.

She makes him prepare a good-format-CV for her.

She needs him to drop her to the venue of a walk-in interview.

She expects him to collect all the consultants' mail ids.

She needs him while preparing for the interviews.

She needs his help in identifying HER skill sets, strengths and weakness!

She wants him to conduct a mock-interview for her!

She gives her yahoo mail id password so that he can forward her CV to consultants through internet in his office (in office hours!)

She needs him for boosting her confidence when she fails in the 1 st written test in her life.

She wants him to take her to M.G Road, Brigade Road, Forum, Big bazaar and Bangalore Central

She needs his company while visiting all the temples in Malleshwaram on Vijayadashami, though he is not a believer of God.

She asks his opinions on importance of marriage.

She wants him to be a shoulder to cry when her parents force her for marriage.

She needs his help in preparing her mind for the first interview with a guy.

She needs his help in deciding about the marriage proposal.

She loves to share her happiness with him when she gets engaged.

She expects him to attend her marriage (Come on guys, he is a true friend of her!)


Quote:
The guy does all this honestly, without saying a single "No".


He loves her.

He cares for her.

Whatever he is today; it is only because of her entry in to his life.

He treats her as his life.

She changed him.

It is only because of her, he is smiling.

It is only because of her, he has forgotten the past bitter experiences.

She is the first person in his life to influence him so much.

He was the " bhatka hua musafir" and she came as his "manzil".

He threw the cigarette in the dust-bin because of her.

He has cultivated a positive attitude towards marriage and family because of her.

She is the perfect Indian woman he has ever seen.

He keeps a photo of Lord Krishna in his purse now; only because of her (also it is her favorite deity!).

Weekends come and go without his notice; it is only because of her.

He stopped going to office on Weekends; it is only because of her.

Onsite project was his dream; he puts all his efforts now, not to get an onsite assignment but to get a job for her in Bangalore.


***********************************


The girl depends on the guy as if she never lived and can never live without him. Guy behaves as if he has taken birth on this earth only to care for that lady.

She treats him as a shoulder to cry and he treats her as a puppy in a rain storm. She loves to depend and he loves to take care, finally they fall in so called "love", ultimately adding an unnecessary trauma to life.

Girls want a perfect life partner but they don't want to hurt their parents' feelings, guys know that they can't get her but still they want to care for her(because they want her to be happy wherever she is and with whoever she is). Great! Or shall I say crap! Or I think no need to be so serious about it.


She gets engaged, life goes on...

Long lasting phone calls become short and sweet, life goes on...

A heart which was used to "Good morning" SMSs learns to be happy with just the "Happy weekend" SMSs, life goes on...

No more "Unread messages" in the yahoo mail, life goes on...

No one to share coffee at "Barista" at the end of a tiring working day, life goes on...

No more consultants' calls to be diverted and life goes on...

He starts smoking again, life goes on...

He is still living in flashback, and no looking back for her, but life goes on...

He gets promoted, he is a manager, she is mother of two kids, and life goes on...

He is in his late twenties, happily married to a beautiful, understanding, mature, caring, broad minded wife! Anyway life goes on...



Who knows, among these "Nitin"s someone will come up as "Cheran" (ace Tamil film director) and make a wonderful movie "Autograph" telling us of his unsuccessful love stories, or someone will come up as "Sudeep" (Kannada film actor turned director) who goes to his flashback after seeing this movie and then decides remaking this movie in Kannada, giving common people an opportunity to relive their past love-life at least for 3 hours, that too with their spouses, without any problem!


Because there is " She" in every wife and there is Nitin in every husband (most of the times!). There are dumb spectators like " Friend" who are puzzled to see the whole episode between "She" and Nitin and just ask themselves " WHAT IT IS???" .

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kausalya
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 07, 2006 6:16 am Reply with quoteBack to top

There is always a question of why girls leave guys?
There are a lot of rhetorical questions when it comes to issues between girls and guys..

Why do girls have to leave there house after marraige? why not guys?

This is a very sensitive issue. And the fact is our mindset is like that.
There is lot expected out of a girl. Dont you think so?

if guy walks out of the house n gets married... he is only being stubborn.
But if the girl does that she is ill natured.

if a guy looks after his parents after marraige, then its his duty.
If the girl does the same to her parents, then it is a favour..( and she needs her husbands n in-laws permission for that)

If the guy is not married till his thirties... then he has had reponsibilities and its never too late for them they wud anyway get a girl around 20.
If a girl is not married and is already in her mid or late twenties... then there must be something wrong with her or the family.

If parents are living in their son's earnings... then they are blessed...
If they are living in their daughter's earnings(b4 marraige), then they are shame less...

If the guy demands something during the wedding.. its dowry(even tho' its illegal)
if the girl demands( wonder if anyone does, nothing that i know of..)its out of question...

if a man talk about woman's rights... he is considerate and respects woman...
If a woman talks about her own rights... she is feministic...

If a guy leaves a girl... she must be disloyal or double timing...
if a girl leaves a guy.... she is not strong enough in her relationship...

If the man is a divorcee... his x-wife was intolerable...
If the woman is... she must have been a bad wife and daughter in law...

If the husband is the head of the house.... he is "THE" man...
If the wife is... then it means the husban is hen-pecked...

If a woman is into prostitution... then she is a valueless human and a sinner...
But the man who goes to her... just his need ah..???????

Why is that the expectation for girls and guys so different...????
The escapist answer... the society is like that only... we can help it.. or what can we do..
The chauvanistic answer.... the problem is women working and thus they raise their voice for every issue...
The xtremely feminist answer.... these men should change their mindset...
And the answer could go on... convincing ourselves for this kind of mindset...
But the question is are we goin to remain this way for ever, blindly accepting blaming on the society for what it is forgetting we are the ones constituting it... or are we going to THINK?

P.S - All the thoughts mentioned are my personal opinions and view points. No offence meant to anyone in particular or the person who posted the message 'She, He... And a love story'.
Regards
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kausalya
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 07, 2006 6:16 am Reply with quoteBack to top

There is always a question of why girls leave guys?
There are a lot of rhetorical questions when it comes to issues between girls and guys..

Why do girls have to leave there house after marraige? why not guys?

This is a very sensitive issue. And the fact is our mindset is like that.
There is lot expected out of a girl. Dont you think so?

if guy walks out of the house n gets married... he is only being stubborn.
But if the girl does that she is ill natured.

if a guy looks after his parents after marraige, then its his duty.
If the girl does the same to her parents, then it is a favour..( and she needs her husbands n in-laws permission for that)

If the guy is not married till his thirties... then he has had reponsibilities and its never too late for them they wud anyway get a girl around 20.
If a girl is not married and is already in her mid or late twenties... then there must be something wrong with her or the family.

If parents are living in their son's earnings... then they are blessed...
If they are living in their daughter's earnings(b4 marraige), then they are shame less...

If the guy demands something during the wedding.. its dowry(even tho' its illegal)
if the girl demands( wonder if anyone does, nothing that i know of..)its out of question...

if a man talk about woman's rights... he is considerate and respects woman...
If a woman talks about her own rights... she is feministic...

If a guy leaves a girl... she must be disloyal or double timing...
if a girl leaves a guy.... she is not strong enough in her relationship...

If the man is a divorcee... his x-wife was intolerable...
If the woman is... she must have been a bad wife and daughter in law...

If the husband is the head of the house.... he is "THE" man...
If the wife is... then it means the husban is hen-pecked...

If a woman is into prostitution... then she is a valueless human and a sinner...
But the man who goes to her... just his need ah..???????

Why is that the expectation for girls and guys so different...????
The escapist answer... the society is like that only... we can help it.. or what can we do..
The chauvanistic answer.... the problem is women working and thus they raise their voice for every issue...
The xtremely feminist answer.... these men should change their mindset...
And the answer could go on... convincing ourselves for this kind of mindset...
But the question is are we goin to remain this way for ever, blindly accepting blaming on the society for what it is forgetting we are the ones constituting it... or are we going to THINK?

P.S - All the thoughts mentioned are my personal opinions and view points. No offence meant to anyone in particular or the person who posted the message 'She, He... And a love story'.
Regards
Kausalya icon_smile.gif

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vinu_scorpion
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 31, 2006 5:34 am Reply with quoteBack to top

Kausi, y did u post it twice??

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kausalya
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 31, 2006 11:40 am Reply with quoteBack to top

I dnt post it twice. Its some tech issue. m not even able to delete one of them.

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PostPosted: Tue Aug 01, 2006 6:43 am Reply with quoteBack to top

- Vinoth
Because there is " She" in every wife and there is Nitin in every husband (most of the times!). There are dumb spectators like " Friend" who are puzzled to see the whole episode between "She" and Nitin and just ask themselves " WHAT IT IS???"

- Kausy
Why is that the expectation for girls and guys so different...????
The escapist answer... the society is like that only... we can help it.. or what can we do..
The chauvanistic answer.... the problem is women working and thus they raise their voice for every issue...

All the thoughts mentioned are their personal opinions and view points. No offence meant to anyone in particular

Regards????????????????????
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vinu_scorpion
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PostPosted: Tue Aug 01, 2006 8:35 am Reply with quoteBack to top

ravi, whats ur question??

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PostPosted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 1:43 pm Reply with quoteBack to top

Something About Wives"

My wife dresses to kill. She also cooks the same way.
-Henny Youngman
----------------------------------------------------------

My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we
met.
-Rodney Dangerfield
-----------------------------------------------------------

A good wife always forgives her husband when she's
wrong.
-Milton Berle
------------------------------------------------------------

I bought my wife a new car. She called and said,
"There was
water in the carburetor."
I asked her, "Where's the car?"
She replied, In the lake."
-Henny Youngman
--------------------------------------------------------------

The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.
-Henny Youngman
-----------------------------------------------------------------

After a quarrel, a wife said to her husband, "You
know, I
was a fool when I married you."
The husband replied, "Yes, dear, but I was in love and

didn't notice."
-------------------------------------------------------------------------

When a man steals your wife, there is no better
revenge than
to let him keep her.
---------------------------------------------------------------

I haven't spoken to my wife in 18 months - I don't
like to
interrupt her.
----------------------------------------------------------

My girlfriend told me I should be more affectionate.
So I
got myself two girlfriends.
---------------------------------------------------------

A man said his credit card was stolen but he decided
not to
report it since the thief was spending much less than
his wife did.
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Man is incomplete until he is married. Then he is
finished.
----------------------------------------------------------

A little boy asked his father, "Daddy, how much does
it cost
to get married?"
The father replied, "I don't know son, I'm still
paying."
----------------------------------------------------------

Young Son: Is it true, Dad, that in some parts of
Africa, a
Man doesn't know his wife until he marries her?
Dad: That happens in every country, son.
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Then there was a man who said, "I never knew what real

happiness was until I got married; then it was too
late.
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A man placed an ad in the classifieds: "Wife wanted."
The next day he received a hundred letters.
They all said the same: "You can have mine."
--------------------------------------------------------

A woman was telling her friend, "I made my husband a
millionaire."
"And what was he before you married him?" asked the
friend.
"A billionaire." she replied,
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Marriage is the triumph of imagination over
intelligence.
Second marriage is the triumph of hope over
experience.
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It's not true that married men live longer than single
men.
It only seems longer.
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Losing a wife can be very hard. In my case, it was
almost
impossible.
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Just think, if it weren't for marriage, men would go
through
life Thinking they had no faults at all.
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A successful man is one who makes more money than his
wife
can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such
a man.
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A man meets a genie. The genie tells him he can ask
for
whatever he wants,
but his mother-in-law gets double of what he gets.
The man thinks for a moment and says, Okay, give me a
million dollars and beat me till I'm half dead."
---------------------------------------------------------

Men who have pierced ears are better prepared for
marriage.
They've experienced pain and bought jewelry.
----------------------------------------------------------

The most effective way to remember your wife's
birthday is
to forget it once.
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